Disclaimer, i don’t know where this is going, and there might not be a point, but the name of the blog is ‘me i think’ so embrace the free fall into the rabbit’s hole.
Love, lust, sexytime and all things related, what a friend and i were talking about over reggae and incense recently. I would say he considers himself to be ‘enlightned’ least i know he isn’t ashamed of his opinions and we got to talking about relationships. Why we were both still single had to pop up. *sigh*. my self-diagnosis; Cristina syndrome. I know what i don’t want, that’s all that’s around me apparently…
Enlightened friend however had different views. I’ll write it like he put it…
Billions of people on this earth, different personalities, temper fuses, values, moral convictions, etc etc, but since the standard is dating – relationship – marriage (maybe) we, the earthlings are forced to conform to social norms that we didn’t ever think of questioning before. He said that having a title like ‘boyfriend’ or ‘fiance’ equals expectations (plus sex of course) but mostly expectations, and we know how that goes. Girl knows ‘friendly dude’ and he graduates to ‘Mr. Man’ (we all know because she put it on her facebook) and suddenly ‘Mr Man’ is expected to call more than often, pick up when you’re having a bad day, bring chocolate cake to Girl’s door because she has a craving etc etc. In most cases, ‘Mr Man’ never really delivers like he is supposed to and that’s when the disappointment factor is introduced.
Enlightened friend also talked about how when a couple becomes official. They are basically announcing to the world that they are knocking boots. -that’s the phrasre right? Knocking boots? Intercoursing?
He does sound skeptical, but i see his point.
Then with all these ‘he’s not that into you’ types of books and movies, Cosmopolitan and similar types of magazines that cause ‘Girl’ to get confused when ‘Mr Man’ doesn’t put a smiley face at the end of his text… do they consider that we are all individuals? With different ways of showing affection? We can’t all do three dates, and fidget with our keys (ladies) at the end of the third date, and invite ‘friendly dude’ in for coffee, end up having awesome sex, hence changing his status to ‘Mr Man’. It obviously can’t go that way for all of us.
Personally, i don’t have that many keys. I’d look silly trying to fidget with all the two keys on my key ring!
Maybe ‘friendly dude’ was actually busy and was gonna get around to calling before you shut him down.
We can’t all get fairytale endings. So now what?
Enlightened friend of mine believes in doing things his way. I’m on the fence with this one. Of course i would want ‘friendly dude’ to call. (whoever he is, situation pending), but because he wants to! Enlightened friend might just be lazy. It takes a minute to send a text! And now there’s qwerty keypads on phones!
He still does believe in love of course. Which is great, just not the conventional process of it.
Love is complicated.
What is love anyway? Relationships? Sex?
Whatever it is, it’s out there. I believe.
Finding it however, is something else all together.
On an unrelated note,
I like big butts and i cannot lie, you other brothers can’t deny, that when a girl walks in with an itty bitty waist and a round thing in your face, you get sprung… -Sir Mixalot.